Online EMDR Therapy in Los Gatos and across California
Reprocess the past. Reclaim the present. Redefine your future.
Success doesn’t have to come at the cost of your nervous system.
EMDR might be a good fit for you if you:
Have had past experiences–big or small–that still affect how you think, feel, or respond today. Even someone telling you “you’re stupid” or “you’re not good enough” counts.
Find yourself reacting strongly in certain situations and aren’t sure why.
Achieved a lot, but something under the surface keeps you feeling stuck, anxious, or on edge.
Intellectually know you’re safe or capable, but your body still feels otherwise.
Are exhausted from overthinking and want to heal deeper emotional wounds without having to relive every detail.
Have tried talk therapy before but feel like you’ve hit a wall or want a more targeted approach.
Are ready to release old patterns, limiting beliefs, or emotional blocks that are no longer serving you.
Want to feel more grounded, confident, and emotionally free in both your personal and professional life.
You don’t have to hit rock bottom to do this work. You’ve held it together for a long time–maybe so well that no one would guess how heavy things feel beneath the surface. You’re successful, capable, and good at pushing through. And you’re tired of carrying things that logic alone can’t fix. You don’t have to rehash every detail of the past to move forward.
You just have to be willing to start.
EMDR helps your brain do what it was built to do: Heal
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EMDR stands for Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing. It’s a type of therapy that helps your brain process and release experiences that feel stuck–especially things like trauma, stress, or painful memories that still affect how you think, feel, or react today.
A lot of times, we know something is in the past, but our body or emotions don’t fully catch up. EMDR helps bridge that gap. Instead of just talking through something, we use things like back-and-forth eye movements or tapping to activate the brain’s natural healing process–similar to what happens during REM sleep.
You won’t have to relive everything in detail. We go at your pace, and you stay in control the whole time. My role is to guide the process so your system can do the healing it’s already capable of—just with the right support.
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This approach helps you move past what’s been holding you back beneath the surface–whether it’s old wounds, anxiety, or patterns that drain your energy. EMDR doesn’t just help you manage symptoms temporarily; it helps your brain process and release stuck emotions and memories so they no longer control your reactions or decisions.
That means less mental and emotional noise, more clarity, and more energy to focus on what truly matters–whether that’s leading your team, growing your business, nurturing relationships, or simply feeling like yourself again.
Because we work at your pace, you can build resilience without feeling overwhelmed or vulnerable in ways that don’t feel safe. In short, EMDR with this approach helps you reclaim your time, your peace, and your power to move forward with confidence.
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EMDR is a structured, evidence-based therapy but it’s also flexible and collaborative. Here’s what the process typically looks like, broken down into 8 phases:
1 history and treatment planning
We start by getting a clear picture of your story–what’s been weighing on you, where you feel stuck, and what goals you have for therapy. You don’t need to go into every detail–just enough to help us map out a focused plan.
2 preparation
You’ll learn grounding tools and strategies to help you feel safe, steady, and in control before we begin any deeper work. We’ll build trust and make sure you’re fully supported every step of the way. We can take as long as we need to get you feeling okay enough to start dealing with the past. Typically we actually start with building at least a few resources before even working through your history because I recognize that sometimes even just thinking about a past event can be triggering. This is all individualized and I work with the nervous system in front of me at the time.
3 assessment
We identify a specific memory, belief, or pattern that feels emotionally charged. Together, we’ll explore how it shows up in your body, thoughts, and emotions so we can begin reprocessing it with clarity and care.
4 desensitization
This is where the reprocessing happens. Using bilateral stimulation (like eye movements or tapping), your brain begins to unstick the memory and process it more adaptively–reducing the emotional charge it once held.
5 installation
Once the old reactions start to fade, we strengthen a new, more empowering belief that feels true to you–like “I’m safe now” or “I did the best I could.” This helps rewire how you relate to the experience going forward.
6 body scan
We check in with your body to see if any tension or emotional residue is still lingering. EMDR isn’t just about changing thoughts–it’s about full mind-body integration.
7 closure
Each session ends with grounding, regulation, and reflection. Even if reprocessing isn’t fully complete, we make sure you feel stable and supported before you leave.
8 reevaluation
At the start of the next session, we check in on how things have shifted–what’s feeling lighter, what’s still activated–and decide together where to focus next.
Throughout the process, you stay in the driver’s seat.
This is a collaborative, flexible, and deeply respectful approach to healing.
Release emotional patterns and memories that keep you stuck
Interrupt cycles of burnout, self-criticism, and over-functioning
Shift core beliefs like “I’m not enough” or “I have to do it all”
Reduce anxiety, overwhelm, and emotional reactivity
Heal the root causes–not just the symptoms–of stress and trauma
Strengthen your ability to stay grounded, even under pressure
Reclaim access to calm, clarity, and emotional space
Build a relationship with your nervous system based on safety, not survival
Trust yourself more fully in your boundaries, choices, and direction
Expand your capacity for rest, connection, and joy–without guilt
You don’t have to relive it to release it.
FAQs
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No. One of the benefits of EMDR is that you don’t have to go into the full story to get relief. You stay in control of how much you share, and we focus on what feels manageable. The healing happens through reprocessing, not through retelling.
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It depends on the person and the issue we’re addressing. Some people experience noticeable relief within a few sessions, while deeper or more complex work work may take longer. We’ll go at your pace and make sure you feel grounded throughout the process.
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Not at all. EMDR is effective for anyone feeling stuck, overwhelmed, anxious, or burned out–especially if traditional talk therapy hasn’t helped you fully shift. You don’t need a “big T” trauma to benefit. If something is still impacting you, it’s worth working through.